At some point in our lives, we have all experienced the feeling of loneliness. Loneliness can take shape in many ways. You can feel alone in your apartment and at the same time feel alone in a crowd of people. What is the common thread? To feel lonely is to feel socially disconnected, separated, rejected, or abandoned in some way. COVID really amplified people’s perceived feelings of loneliness. On the other hand, being alone does not necessarily mean that you feel lonely. Many people can thrive alone. There should be a balance, however, between being alone and being in society. Now, how can a person be alone but not feel lonely? It is important to understand that for many, being alone is a luxury. Having the time to read, listen to podcasts, audiobooks, listen to music, take a yoga class or watch a TV show are activities that not everyone is able to participate in. Take the time to carve out in your weekly schedule your “alone time” so that it doesn’t feel endless and without purpose. If you find that you still feel lonely when you would like to be having “alone time,” it might be time to reach out to a friend, family member, or mental health professional to explore what is behind those feelings.
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